Maybe its just a form of insecurity, and even if so how do you get over it? Is it just my way of thinking.. Because I definatley need your way of thinking.. I would feel alot better about myself just like you feel about yourself. Hey I get lonely sometimes too but you know Don't get me wrong, I still get out once in a while and just try to be a little more sociable, but I guess in I'm just not really that sociable by nature.
I've never really had a social life before so I'm used to it I guess. I look at the picture as a whole and figure that being social doesn't equate to having a life. The definition of having a life is different for everyone. My definition involves having other goals or aspirations in life other then trying to find the right people in my life. While others will view having a life as having a bunch of friends and a girlfriend, etc. People place way too much emphasis on that stuff in their lives it seems.
I think it's good but not it seriously just does not complete me as a person. I say try out a bunch of new things in life whether it is with other people or not and find your niche. I am one of the few people in this world who just loves math, LOL.
So that's what I go for in college: Computer Science major and Math minor. Math has been proven to be a very powerful tool if used correctly.
Same goes for computers. But hey I'm not completely a geek. I love to dance or just be random once in a while and try to think up new ideas. I go to this other site called Creativity Pool a lot and read other people's innovative thoughts. I hate anything in life that tries to stifle innovation in general. I think innovation is a good thing. I want to develop a very creative mindset and also just do things in life that are fun for me and not what is widely-viewed as fun by other people such as drinking, sex, etc.
Hey I'm not a virgin either but at the same time I just don't see the thrill in going around and sleeping with random girls. Maybe my testosterone isn't high enough yet, LOL. I'm kind of rambling at this point but don't you see?
It's about what makes you complete in life. Find your fun spots and sources of motivation in life and go for it. You will thank yourself in the long run when you don't walk around aimlessly all of your life. No one can tell you what is right in life and no one can make you happy. They can help, but only to a certain extent. On a side note, I find that the people I connect with best are usually older people like my astronomy professor or younger girls who are the more introverted and insightful type.
Good luck in your quest in life and don't be angered by shady people. Let them figure it out themselves if they ever do. I can see your concern, lifeiscash. I formulated a theory a few months back that states "all people are selfish at their most inner core.
I don't like that pessimistic viewpoint on people, but it tends to hold true in most cases. I think that's why it's so difficult finding someone who is a loyal, trustworthy friend. There are a few out there though. I also agree with you that there are a lot of "shady" people out there.
What I find easy to do with these people, is to cut them off completely. It will save you time and a headache in the end. And your right, I need to find things in my life that make me complete.
It shouldn't be a girl or friends, I need to find things that make me feel happy even without them. I don't mean to completely isolate you from people.
That isn't a good thing to do either. You know what happened to Regina George? She got hit by a bus. You could have wronged someone and not know it, because they smile in your face and give you a hug. But when backs are turned, the shade comes out. How is that healthy?
Being polite is one thing, but faking friendliness is a whole other beast. Being kind—I mean truly kind—is the challenging part. And we all have to be challenged to grow. Because nobody is perfect. Here are 10 shady friendship signs you need to look out for. Some people are naturally more organized and others more spontaneous.
Either way, yuck. Gossip is one of those ubiquitous things you find at any school. Does your friend always pick the movie, pick the restaurant, or even try to tell you what to wear? Some people are naturally more decisive, but healthy friendships are more balanced.
New relationships are really fun. There is such a thing as healthy competition. Good friends can inspire each other and push each other to do better. And being surrounded by talented friends can be a great motivator. But if your friend gets salty when you beat her or rubs her victories in your face , that is hardly inspiring.
Everyone goes through tough times. Teasing and clever burns are part of a lot of friendships. If your friend makes a joke that hurts your feelings, tell her.
Ask yourself what you think her intention is. Is she trying to make you laugh or is she trying to make herself look or feel better?
If you notice any of these friendship signs, make sure to speak up.
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